‘Divorce Day’ is real confirms Ilford family solicitor

PUBLISHED: 16:03 05 January 2016 | UPDATED: 16:03 05 January 2016

Divorce. Photo: Anthony Devlin/PA Wire/PA Images

Divorce. Photo: Anthony Devlin/PA Wire/PA Images

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A high street law firm was met with a “phenomenal” amount of requests for divorce on the first Monday back to work after Christmas, dubbed “Divorce Day”.

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Every January, solicitors brace themselves for the traditional spike in divorces that unfortunately stem from families spending a lot of time together.

Laurence Harris of Quality Solicitors Harris Waters in High Road, Ilford, explained why, despite radio airplay, Christmas is not so merry for everybody.

He said: “When people spend a huge amount of time together, problems surface.”

For most of the year, families live with each other but not together, day to day activities occupy them and provide distractions.

Harris Waters solicitors in High Road, Ilford. Picture: GoogleHarris Waters solicitors in High Road, Ilford. Picture: Google

“At Christmas people have to be part of the relationship and its where underlying flaws surface,” Mr Harris said.

Leading many to lament - all I don’t want for Christmas is you.

Research conducted last year by Irwin Mitchell, a national law firm, revealed that one in five couples were planning to divorce after spending one last Christmas together.

Statistics also showed 26 per cent stayed together just “for the kids”.

“Children are the most important thing.” added Mr Harris. “That is always our starting point.”

“How are we going to look after the children.”

Mr Harris added that people experienced pressure being with each other for 24-hours-a-day for up to 10 days during the Christmas break.

“Its not like a holiday where you do things, its under the same roof and things get done and said.”

Mr Harris, who himself has been happily married for 30 years and practicing in family law for 10 years, explained that since the firm reopened on January 4, the phones had not stopped ringing.

“Since Monday morning it has been continuous,” he said. “People have been asking to come in that day.”

He added there is no secret to a happy marriage, people just “have to talk to each other”.

“The perfect marriage does not exist, it would be highly likely to be extremely boring if it were,” he said.

“Everybody is flawed, the answer is when those flaws emerge how do you deal with them.”

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