Daughter of 75 year-old man banned from visit in Barkingside
PUBLISHED: 14:34 22 October 2015 | UPDATED: 14:34 22 October 2015
A 75-year-old MS (multiple sclerosis) sufferer has asked for the charity which owns his sheltered housing to reconsider after it banned his daughter and carer from visiting after a argument with a neighbour.
Geoffrey Vallance’s daughter Melanie, 43, received a letter from the Jewish Blind and Disabled – which runs independent living flats in Aztec House, Barkingside – at the end of September telling her she was not allowed to enter the site.
Mr Vallance, who has advanced MS and diabetes and is in a wheelchair, has lived at Aztec House for four and a half years.
He said: “I can’t do without her. She has been banned as my carer and she has been banned from seeing me and that is even harder and is what really gets to me. All I want is for her to come and visit me.
“She can walk straight to my flat and not talk to anyone.”
The charity’s letter followed an argument between Miss Vallance and other tenants at the residence several weeks ago.
A spokeswoman from the Jewish Blind and Disabled told the Recorder: “It is with great regret that Jewish Blind & Disabled, has had, after much heartfelt consideration, no choice but to unfortunately prohibit the daughter of this tenant from entering this facility.
“This is the first time that the management team at Jewish Blind & Disabled has had to take this kind of action but has done so in the best interests of its other tenants, staff and other visitors to the facility.”
The charity liaised with Redbridge Council to ensure a care package was put in place and the ban took effect from Monday, when a social worker attended Mr Vallance.
But Mr Vallance said he would rather receive care from his daughter, who has visited him every day since he came to live at the flats, helping him with cooking and cleaning.
The pair called on the charity to reconsider the ban, claiming there had been no real mediation over the incident.
Last month Mr Vallance was invited to a meeting with managers to explain the decision, but he said Miss Vallance was not invited.
Miss Vallance, who lives in a flat in Collier Row inaccessible to a wheelchair, said: “I am so upset now and I don’t know what to do.”
Bernard Bookmin, 83, who lives opposite Mr Vallance, said: “Everybody likes Geoff, he is a marvellous man but some people have taken a dislike to his daughter.
“We are Jewish people and we are supposed to live in harmony and not to treat each other like that.”
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